At this time, most of us are thinking about New Year’s resolutions. Setting milestones works differently for each of us, but if we can change our mindset and adopt a behaviour that allows us to embrace change more readily, we’re already ahead of the game. These valuable lessons can help us cope, grow and find peace. Hope you find them as valuable as I have.
1. If something terrifying and exciting at the same time, you should do it. It will undoubtedly be a growth experience for you.
2. Your thoughts are everything. With the wrong thoughts you will have the wrong attitude, and with the wrong attitude you will have the wrong behavior.
3. Always take a chance on something that may be beneficial. You don’t know if the opportunity will come again and you can always change your mind later.
4. There is no elevator to success. You need to take the stairs and sometimes those stairs are difficult to navigate; but don’t give up on your vision.
5. The way we speak to our children becomes their inner voice. Choose your words carefully and thoughtfully.
6. It’s more important to be kind than to be right.
7. As a parent, you can’t be all things all the time. Embrace the season you are in and know that with every phase will come new challenges and opportunities.
8. In life, it’s okay to take breaks from our long-term visions; but the key is to NEVER become STAGNANT. Always find ways to grow with what you are given here and now.
9. Don’t take your mental health for granted. Find ways to minimize stressors in your life as much as possible by finding moments to be present and grateful in the chaos.
10. Marriage is hard regardless of who you are. Just like the weather, there’s going to be sunshine and there’s going to be days with plenty of rain—some days will be a mixture of both. Come to you marriage with an umbrella of mercy and focus on both of your strengths while tactfully and RESPECTFULLY addressing differences and concerns as they arise. If you need professional help, get it.
11. Be kind to yourself. There is only one you and you are doing the best with what you are given.
12. It’s not your place to judge. Successful people don’t have time to get caught up in the drama of toxic individuals.
13. Stay in your lane. Successful people do not compete with others around them; they make their own path.
14. True leaders create more leaders; not more followers. If you’re in it for the fame, you’re in it for the wrong reasons.
15. Acknowledging your mistakes is one of the most important modeling tools for your relationships. It not only has the ability to transform your relationship with that person; but it also demonstrates that none of us are perfect beings–and that’s ok!
16. If you need external validation to feel good about yourself, you have got some soul work to do.
17. Travel and learn as many languages as you can. You will learn so much about yourself and what it means to be human in the process.
18. Putting yourself first isn’t selfish. If you are unhappy then you will make others around you unhappy. Self-care needs to be a top priority.
19. Never marry someone for their title or money. Marry someone who is hard-working with good morals and character. I speak from experience that success will always follow a hard-working person.
20. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that you accept what someone has done to you; it means that you refuse to allow the past to drain you and you choose to allow mercy to heal your spirit.
21. We plan, but God always has a bigger and better plan for our lives. Trust that He knows what He is doing.
22. Never try to control your emotions. All emotions are valid and make sense within a human context. Regulate and address those emotions instead. Controlling your emotions simply suppresses the root issue.
23. Treat others based on your manners, not on their manners. Don’t allow someone else’s behavior to affect your behavior.
24. Know your gifts and use them to align yourself with your long-term vision.
25. It’s a waste of time to think about all you “should have” done. Hindsight is always 20/20. Focus on what needs to change now and how that will impact your future.
26. Some problems in life are unsolvable and there are times where one must learn to disagree agreeably. Don’t drain your energy on someone who is not ready to change. Focus on what’s in your control and sometimes that means learning to let it go.
27. Clinical/Professional Counseling is awesome and it’s an experience everyone should have. There’s something very sacred and healing about being in a room with someone who is focused on your growth and helping you become the best version of yourself. It should be on everyone’s bucket list.
28. You are not going to be everyone’s cup of tea. It’s not your job to make everyone like you. The biggest most expensive companies like Ferrari have no need to advertise themselves because they know their worth. People who know your value will gravitate towards you regardless.
29. Don’t accept your faith blindly. Question and research until you are satisfied with the answers.
30. You have to walk the walk and talk the talk. None of us are perfect, but we must strive to exemplify the pristine ideals and values that we teach others. Treat the janitor the same respect as the CEO of a company. And treat your family with the most respect and care you can give anyone.